Posts by Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Infinity Loop: Identifying Negative Cycles in Your Relationship

 Identifying and communicating these cycles’ helps each person gain a deeper understanding of one another’s experience and perspective.

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
The Benefits of Family Therapy: Strengthening Bonds and Resolving Conflicts

Family therapy can be a valuable tool in helping us to strengthen our bonds, address dysfunctional patterns, and work towards conflict resolution.

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
5 Strategies for Managing Stress Around the Holidays 

Exploring some tips to preemptively manage some of these stressors that might arise….

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Understanding DBT: How Dialectical Behavior Therapy Can Help You

Here at Mindsoother Therapy Center, our therapists are trained in depth in DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy. So what is DBT?

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
How to Support your Child in their Transition to Middle School 

Helping our children feel supported through these changes through preparation, planning, and open communication can make these changes feel much more manageable….

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
How to Manage your Family’s Screen Time this Summer

Continued research has demonstrated the potential negative impacts of long-term/chronic screen time.…

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Ways to Develop More Structure for Your Family Outside of School

Outside of school, on weekends, holidays, or during summer break, it can be difficult to decide how to fill up the extra time in our children’s days. Adding structure to our days can help to establish clearer expectations, promote more independence, and reduce behavior difficulties.

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Using DBT Distress Tolerance Skills: Spring Edition

Wise Mind ACCEPTS is an acronym for different skills we can use during times of distress, anxiety, worry, and/or high emotional temperature. ACCEPTS can help us to temporarily distract ourselves from our stressors so that we can better cope with them from a more regulated space, especially if the situation can’t be made better right away and we don’t have to make things worse. Below are some different ideas for how this Skill can be used With the warmer weather approaching:

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Maintaining Positive Connections with your Children as a Single Parent

Here are some hepful tips that can help in building and maintaining connected parent-child relationships in single-parent family arrangements: 

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Tips for Managing Stress Around the Holidays

The holiday season can be a time of joy, connection, and celebration. The season can also present its own unique challenges, like disruptions in routines, reminders of loved ones lost, increased financial stress, and more. A NAMI survey from 2014 found that 64% of people with mental health conditions report that the holidays worsened their symptoms! Below are some ways to preemptively manage some of these stressors that might arise: 

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Ways to Stop Your Negative Thoughts

Dr. Daniel Amen came up with the term Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) in the 1990s. These are negative, gloomy, and complaining thoughts that just seem to show. We can all get these at different times. The more they build up, the more distress we experience and have to manage. Below are different types of ANTs and different strategies for beginning to challenge them. ANTs are part of a cycle that interact with our feelings and behaviors; this is a cycle that can be broken!

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
How Therapy Helps Even When You're Not in Crisis

Therapy may be thought of as a space to work through problems, manage crises, and/or decrease harmful behaviors. Therapy can also be a very beneficial space when things in our lives seem to be going smoothly, or there are no urgent issues that need attention. During a time like this, clients can often think, “I met my original goals. This is no longer needed.” Continuing or seeking therapy in the absence of crises can provide its own unique opportunities that may not be as available at other times, like:

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Six Strategies to Help Manage Perfectionism in Your Home

Perfectionism can serve a purpose in each of our lives, though sometimes it causes problems and contributes to stress. It’s an exhausting pursuit that can stifle healthy risk-taking, growth, progress, and discovery.

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
Disordered Eating in the LGBTQ+ Community

While eating disorders and disordered eating behaviors can impact individuals of all identities, studies repeatedly show that those in the LGBTQ+ community experience these struggles at higher rates than the general population. As sexual and gender minorities, this community faces increased levels of external and internal stressors. These external stressors (bullying, discrimination, violence, micro-aggressions, stereotypes, social pressures to conform, etc.) and internal stressors (internalized homophobia or transphobia, concealment of identity(s), fear of rejection, disclosing/coming out, etc.) are challenges that disproportionately impact this community and are more likely to contribute to feelings of body dissatisfaction. Body dissatisfaction is found to be one of the greatest predictors associated with eating disorders and/or disordered eating behaviors.

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Erica Kokoszka, LAMFT
The Seven Types of Rest Everyone Needs

Have you ever gotten a good night’s sleep but still woke up feeling exhausted? This might be a sign of “rest deficit.” Rest is more than just sleep! Often, we might confuse the two. It’s important that we stop treating rest like a reward, or something we start doing once exhaustion, burnout, or overwhelms finds us.

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